"Be feared or be loved." True?

"The rebbe rightly rejects the false alternatives from 

Machiavelli: 'be feared or be loved.' But he does not mention 

a key attribute of the good man: INDEPENDENCE."

"One of Machiavelli’s most famous ideas is that it is 'better to be feared than loved.' He observed that, in power struggles, being feared can prevent betrayal or confrontation and can command a certain kind of respect.
    "My goal in life is not to pursue power at any cost. I also reject the false choice between being feared or being loved by others. 

    "What I seek instead is happiness—achieved through my own independent effort. I do not wish to live as either a master or a slave to anyone. 

    "Whether others fear me or love me cannot be the foundation of my happiness, because that would make my well-being dependent on them. True happiness, for me, comes from independence: from using my own thinking and actions to create the things I want to see existing."

~ Felipe Lapyda from his post 'The independent man rejects Machiavellian false alternatives'